em-Bella-ishment:

……… Never withhold food from them.  Let them eat as much as they want (healthy), even if it seems ridiculous.  A lot of these children came from starvation & are stocking up- fearful that this will be their last meal.  My kids still hoard food after 7 years!  I give them 3rd's if that's what they want.  Fruit gets put on the table.  When they "steal" a package of cookies- I DON'T yell.  I say,"Silly!  You shoulda asked for it!  I would have fed you!  Ya big goofball!"  My son?  I put an apple on his dresser every night.  He wakes up in the middle of each night starving!  So- instead of coming downstairs and eating the pancake syrup- I put food in front of his face.  Problem solved.  There are other methods too, if you have this issue.

Yes- it's frustrating- but it's worth building the foundation of trust with them. ........

~Bella~

em-Bella-ishment:

………… A child…… ANY child, will not starve themselves on purpose.  She is using food to CONTROL you.  Don't allow it.  She wont starve.  If she doesn't eat her lunch….. no afternoon snack.  Only dinner. 

Does your school offer paid lunches?  Perhaps you could put her on that for a while?  We ALL have thrown out our lunches as kids.  My RAD kids throw out the lunches they make & tell the school I wont feed them.  I laugh.  I also WON’T pay for it.  Sorry. You let my child con you- not my problem.  Get smart. :)  Again…. Food is a way to control her environment.

What do you need to do?  Just NOT CARE.  Truly.  Give it up.  It's OK if she doesn't eat.  She'll be fine. You do what you can (and yes, its frustrating) & the rest is up to her.  I would talk to her lunch aide & teacher to make sure that they know she is throwing away her food.  :)  Other than that- let her go hungry. She's only going to do what bothers you.  If it STOPS bothering you, she’ll stop doing it.

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em-Bella-ishment:

As for food,?  LOCK IT UP.  Its all you can do.  Yes, they will learn to be sneakier.  You just need to learn quicker!  LOL!

  ~Bella~

em-Bella-ishment:

……..Also, not to "ride" you,  but you are already noticing that your girls are oppositional.  DO NOT give them choices.  Not right now.  Get a food chart- meals and such.  All vegetables, breakfasts, snacks, have them each circle what they Like.  Then buy that.  I DONT ask my kids what they want for diner.  It empowers them.  They misunderstand common kindness for weakness.  Instead, when they ask, "What’s for dinner?"  I say, "You’ll see!"

So- no, don’t ask about PBJ or Ham.  Just give them one of them.  DON’T give them food they don’t like.  They truly will NOT eat it & instead will stuff it under your china cabinet! LOL!

It's NOT mean, it’s just high structure.  As you get to know them each more, you can lessen (or tighten ) the reigns as you deem appropriate.  Right now?  Tight is good. :)………..

~Bella~

The slide show for this song parody is hillarious........

Food Fight!!!!