Welcome to RAD-Wars-
This site is dedicated to the emotional and spiritual well-being of hurting families……. Families which are being torn apart from the inside…….and judged from the outside. Families in crisis hurt not only it’s members, but everyone connected to them………extended family, ex-spouses and their extended family, step-family, grandparents, friends, birth-family, siblings, and close friends……
I write from a mother’s perspective. Often, mothers are the ones who hold the family most dear to their hearts. And unfortunately, they are most often blamed for things that are going wrong in their family. They are rarely given opportunity to explain what’s going on, or they are not believed if they do tell…There will always be someone trying to keep a family together……. there will always be those trying to tear it apart…..And, there will always be someone judging and criticizing, rather than helping or trying to understand what is truly going on…….
My family came face to face with what the psychiatric world calls Reactive Attachment Disorder. Reactive Attachment Disorder and other relational and/or personality disorders war against families. These disorders have no preference for race, religion, economics, or age. This war rages in homes of adoption, blended families, early childhood sickness homes, broken homes, divorced homes………and for other reasons. God created the family unit………Satan and sin mean to destroy it.
Reactive Attachment Disorder and it’s militant comrades are surfacing everywhere with very predictable signs. More and more professionals realize that there truly are war-zones in which families like ours exist. They are finding out the parents are not the problem, the disorders are. Some families are beginning to find the outside support and help they need. Praise God! However, other families are still isolated and under attack where ignorance still reigns.
The purpose of this site is not to explain the medical aspects of what the disorders are. It’s not about the different methods of therapy, or recommending different treatment centers. It’s not about the latest research or to reveal some secret weapon on how to save your child. There are many, many wonderful websites and resources in Cyberspace and the medical world to help with all of that, and I believe it to be an integral part of each suffering family’s life.
Instead, this site is dedicated to encouraging, supporting, understanding and helping the heart of the family as it endures the trying times of loving and training children who are fighting so hard to reject it all. It is here for the marriages falling apart..... It is here for the other family members getting lost in the chaos...... It is for the friends and extended members of the family to understand what these families are going through...... Last, but not least, it is to validate the warrior moms and dads themselves, who think they are going crazy, when they, in fact, are not. Almost always, they are merely misjudged. They are warriors who would give their life to make their family happy and healthy. They are warriors surrounded by the enemy. They believe they are losing their battle. They are trying to hang on until reinforcements arrive to help push back the enemy. As we bring more awareness and education to the general public, families in crisis will be able to receive the help and encouragement they need, rather than the ridicule and judgment it receives most often today………..God bless you as you seek the best for your family……
Since I began this site, my family fell apart. It could not endure the hardship and isolation. Over the last 5 years I have faced divorce, remarriage, my children's rejection, step~children, domestic violence, and finally being alone for the first time in my life at 47 years old, got my life back together, by the grace of God. It was then that I realized that I would open up this site to address all kinds of issues that families face today which are every bit as detrimental to the families' survival.