Uptown Girls, and Us
By Kathryn Taylor
What a charming movie....... Except for a few "close your eyes" seconds for the kiddos, it was a great movie. It's about two troubled rich girls. One eight year old, who's obsessed about germs, never has fun, and is far too mature for her age... and her twenty-two year old nanny who never grew up.
There is humor as these two young ladies mesh their obsessions, tears, and strong personalities. As they share their losses and pain, there are lessons for all to learn about relationship.
In one particular scene, the nanny is telling the little girl about her parents dying when she was little. The little girl responded to her saying:
That you were mad…
See, when you're mad.... you don't miss people.
And if you stay mad, it's like you never knew them at all. That way you don't have to feel sucky about it…….You were lucky."
The words stung as she said them. Is that why my RADs are so consumed with anger? Is that why they live always mad? Is this what they do to not feel the pain? Will the mad never go away until they can remember no more? Will they drown in the sea of their rage unless we can find a way to rescue them?
It is so easy to get caught up in our children's anger. It quickly becomes a vicious circle. Anger is an ugly hideous beast that seeks to rob our families of the contentment they desire. God gives us a little insight into how to battle against the robber of joy.
9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth. 9 Lie not one to another,
seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds 10 And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:
44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;