There are POWs, MIAs, and other silent victims of RAD and other behavioral disorders.
Yes, moms are the primary targets and almost always the most affected by RAD life. But, they are not the only ones suffering... Husbands are often neglected due to all the extra energy demanded by the troubled children... The siblings, and other children in the family are often victimized by the troubled children, as well as, left to fend for themselves on a regular basis. Even though the parents would willingly and lovingly give the normal children the attention they need and desire, the troubled children rob, steal, or demand it all, creating crisis after crisis.
I also believe that our friends and extended family members, as well as teachers, therapists, etc. are also victims in this war. Because our children are incredibly good at what they do, these people are often left to live with the lie. So many have become critical and angry with no hope for reconciliation and understanding. Because to get it, they would have to believe what they cannot see...