Em~Bella~ishment:
There are so many factors to letting them sleep over.
1) Is there sexual abuse in their background?
If the answer is yes, then NO- she cannot sleep over……..ever. She will fall victim again (the odds are HUGE!) or she will victimize another.
2) Is your daughter RAD?
If yes, again, I would say no. I have found that leaving my children even for an hour or two throws them into such fear it takes weeks to heal! Also, I notice, for instance, with my 13 year old…...she wants that freedom…..."PLEASE PLEASE! Can I go to the movies with my friends!! PLEASE!?" I say yes, but when she gets home, she is fresh, nasty, rude, & actually doesn't consider me "safe" . You see, there was a man sitting behind her in the movie theatre & I wasn't there to keep her safe. OR There was cursing in the movies, which threw up her triggers of her birth parent, causing a flair up in her PTSD. I wasn't there to help her with breathing techniques and touch her hand. OR The movie had a love scene! ………Enough said! She is panicked! OR They go to the bathroom and she hears a voice that sounds like her Nana's ad she freaks, calls me from the bathroom to come pick her up!!
What is "normal" for most kids isn't normal for our kids. They are emotionally MUCH younger than their peers and have very poor coping skills.
I won't even let my 13 year old go to camp. Yes, I loved it as a young girl. BUT, I was not RAD, PTSD, Trauma History, SEXUALLY ABUSED, or have panic attacks . I was just a flirt :)
Definitely things to consider before sending her away. What they want is NOT necessarily what they NEED.
~Bella~
