We all have a purpose in life...  The two most important days of our lives is the day we are born, and the day we discover why...
Song of Life
By Kathryn Taylor

A caged bird can never sing,
And anyone who knows anything
Would realize I long to fly
And sing my song before I die-
No longer caged, door open wide,
The tune eludes, trapped deep inside-
I strain to hear a note or two-
I know it's there to be sung for you-
Placed by God…. a precious treasure,
I wish to find and voice it's measures-
Be still O mind!….. Silence, you fears!
Listen a moment!…. What do you hear?
The beating rhythm of an aching heart,
Melody lonely, to tear apart-
Sharps and flats of life endured-
Chords of pleasure to think I'm cured-
Just when I thought there's no more pain,
The song repeats in sad refrain-
I scream aloud, "Oh, Great Composer,
Draw me near…… Pull me closer-
Show me how to sing my song,
To help fit in ……to feel belonged-
Help me sing so loud and clear…..
To carry far and bend an ear-
If my voice should go off key,
I pray you'll come encourage me-
Remind me how I'm free at last,
No longer caged for time has passed-
Appease me with a tune to hum,
Until I hear the beat of my drum."

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something we are all searching for... 
We need to know that we have a purpose... 
 We need to know we are wanted...
 We need to be able to make a difference...
Some of us know what our purpose is... 
Some of us thought we knew... 
Some have no idea at all...
And, still others thought things were fine until their lives were turned upside down… by life...

Reactive Attachment Disorder diagnosed in two of our children turned our world upside down. One symptom of this disorder is the severe rejection a child has for his/her parents. They have an incredible fear of loving and being loved and they go to great lengths to avoid it. This scenario brings utter chaos into unsuspecting families who find themselves parenting emotionally disturbed children.

I wanted to be a wife. I wanted to be a mother. I wanted peace in my home. I wanted to teach my family to be good people and love the Lord. I thought if my goals were good, God would bless my efforts. As many of you have found, life doesn't work that way.  Because each of us has free will, we cannot control the behaviors of others.  We cannot force people to heal, give up bad habits, or accept our love and efforts to help.  Because of this, we must find our significance within ourselves through Christ. To try and find it through our relationships, we set ourselves up for depression, confusion, and hurt feelings.

Jesus’ life is the best example I can find that exemplifies proper relating. He involved himself with others, endured rejection, overcame temptation, helped others, and lived the life He had been dealt humbly.  Jesus did not find his worth in what others thought of Him.  He found His worth in His relationship with God.  So often, I feel hurt because my kids don't like me, or friends and neighbors think badly of me.  Jesus did not fall into that trap.  He knew that what others thought about him was their problem.  It had nothing to do with Him. Therefore, He maintained His identity and could forgive and continue to relate to those in His life.  Jesus was focused on His Father's will.  It was that focus which gave Him the strength to endure the hard times.

It was God's will for Noah to build an ark and save the human race. Because of this, Noah faced years of rejection and ridicule building the ark.  It was God's will for Joseph to save His people through a drought.  Joseph was rejected by his family, enslaved for years, and imprisoned falsely.  It was God's will for Moses to lead God's people out of bondage.  Moses was raised in a pagan culture, not his own.  He ran for his life.  He
returned to rescue a people who grumbled against him, and then spent 40 years in the desert with them waiting for them to get it right. It was God's will for David to become king.  He spent around ten years running for his life from crazy King Saul having to hide in caves…… 
 I think it is obvious to see that what others think of us is not an accurate depiction of our value to God.  If we can realize that the closer we stay to God, seeking His will, the easier it will be to keep a proper perspective on life.  We will not be so quickly overcome by the daily disappointments and hardships that come our way.  We will not view them as God's disliking or not caring about us.  For so many years, we as christians, have been taught that if we love God and seek Him, He will bless and prosper us.  That is just not the case materially.  Jesus, the patriarchs, the prophets, the disciples all suffered hardship and unfairness.  It wasn't their glamorous life that made them great, but their strong faith in God and their fortitude in the face of adversity.

Many of us, including myself, are under severe trials with some of our children, our marriage, or other relationships.  We have a past that may haunt us.  We may have health or financial issues.  We face daily battles of rebellion, we face physical attacks, false allegations, unjust ridicule from peers and professionals, financial hardship due to caring for those we love.  There seems to be no relief in the near future.  It seems like there is no one who completely understands what sacrifices we make.  We feel isolated and afraid.  All of this however, is only circumstantial evidence.  It does not make us guilty before the eyes of God.  It does not mean that God doesn't care.  It does not mean that He doesn't love us as much as someone else, whose life appears easier.  And, it does not mean that our lives will be like this
forever. It is but for a season.  

Psalm 40:3
He has given me a new song to sing, a hymn of praise to our God.  Many will see what he has done and be astounded.  They will put their trust in the Lord.

Phil 2:13-17
 For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure. Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world; Holding forth the word of life; that I may rejoice in the day of Christ, that I have not run in vain, neither laboured in vain.

Phil 3:8-10
 Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ, And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith: That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death;

Phil 4:11-13 
 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in
whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be
hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Phil 4:6-10
 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.  And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
  Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these
things.  Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.
Father God,
Forgive me for doubting Your love for me.  Forgive me for wanting only acceptance and easiness.  Forgive me for seeing hardship as Your rejection of me.  Help me to see the path you have for my life.  Let all that comes my way draw me closer to You.  When people, and even my children, reject me, help me to see it as their shortcoming and not my worth.  May I allow Your love to fill me up so that I am
strong when others come against me.  Help me to see where I go astray in my own character and help me to seek forgiveness from those I have wronged.  Help me to see that I am a very small part of life, that the world does not revolve around me and my problems.  May I cease to focus on my own sorrows and use that energy to uplift others in pain.  Help me to use my shield of faith to stop the arrows of
rejection aimed at my heart.  Fill my cup til it overflows with love for those You set in my path. Thank you for Your Word that guides
every aspect of my life.  Help my relationship with You to be my first priority.  If I spent as much time seeking Your face, as I do trying to get my children or others to love and accept me, I know that I could walk on water all the way into Your arms.  May I live a life worthy that, one day, I will hear you say, "Well done, my good and faithful servant."
In Jesus name, Amen
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